“Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” ? Lao Tzu
Your thoughts are strongly connected to the kind of life you lead.
Do you know that the shortest way to put yourself in a good mood is to think and act positively, as our thoughts create our moods and our emotions?
According to the theory of the law of attraction, “like attracts like”, positive or negative thoughts bring results of the same kind.
Let me give you an example, we all had one of those bad days where everything went wrong from the beginning till the end because we woke up in the morning with a bad mood that affects our behavior all over the day and return to bed in the evening with the same bad mood or even worse.
But actually, everything has started with one negative thought.
As Peace Pilgrim said: "If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought".
Your thoughts affect different aspects of your life such as:
1) Your self-esteem
The reason why some people feel low self-esteem is thinking about their past failures or putting themselves in comparison with others.
2) Your success or failure
The more positive your thoughts are, the more success you'll gain in life.
3) Moral standard
You should take care of things you constantly think about because it's what you will eventually become.
So, you need to be fully aware of what things you're exposed to and to filter them daily, otherwise, you'll become the victim of your thoughts.
4) Your peace of mind
Definitely, if you're surrounded by the negative thoughts of fear and anxiety, you'll find difficulty in enjoying the peace you desire.
5) Your impact on others’ lives
Your behavior towards others is a reflection of what you think about them. A heart that helps others is a heart full of love and humanity.
How to avoid negative self-talk?
What you need to do is to notice when you're telling yourself negative things about your appearance, abilities or behavior, so catching your critic makes it easier to tell back on the negative talks and that will give you a sense of choice in what you think.
Then you need to develop an inner voice that notices the good things about you and your potentials.
Fixed mindset VS Growth mindset:
Stanford professor, Carol Dweck, has discovered that there're two groups of people, people who see intelligence or abilities as fixed what is called a fixed mindset, while other people see, that qualities can be developed, a growth mindset.
More importantly, Dr. Dweck discovered that these different mindsets lead to different behavior and results.
Here's a study she did with Dr. Lisa Blackwell on a group of students for two years. Results show that the students with a growth mindset, those who thought they can change their own intelligence increased their grades over time, but those with a fixed mindset did not. The difference between two groups: a different perspective on intelligence.
In fact, many of the most accomplished people along with all great achievers from Mozart to Einstein built their abilities.
So, the key to success is not just an effort or focus but a growth mindset.
The good news is there's a lot we can do to change mindsets as neuroscience shows that our brains are very malleable and we can change our own ability to think and perform.
So, "Attitude is a choice", aren’t you better off choosing the positive one?
And always remember that your success, accomplishments, and destiny lie in the way you think.